The Hierarchy of Psychological Development:
The transition from the false self (the ego, image, or trauma-induced identity) to Our True Self
Traumatic experiences when we are young divert us from the natural cumulative course of psychological growth, from infancy to adulthood. The more traumas we experience, the more we evacuate from the human qualities that sense the traumas, feel the pain of their impacts, and obsessively think about what happened. We lose our humanity as a result, descending the evolutionary ladder. For example, if our animal body motivates the majority of our decisions, we are in the Animal Stage. When the ups and downs of our environments control our lives, we function like a Vegetable. When we have evacuated so completely from our humanness that we no longer grow, change, or have choice, we exist as a Mineral. Minerals fiercely defend against their humanness or violently attack it, having concluded that it is to blame.
The Mineral Stage
Focus—"MY" WAY! Theme—"There is no choice."
Someone who has been chronically traumatized beyond her ability to cope succumbs to this inanimate psychological stage. The grossly distorted false identity that has been FORCED upon the Mineral by her violent environments she accepts as her own. As if her life were at stake, she fiercely adheres to the inhuman character and concocted storyline that her childhood caretakers with extreme PTS demanded of her. Any “thoughts” and “feelings” a Mineral-stager might experience inside herself have been “programmed” into her by these vengeful people. The barely alive human psyche inside each Mineral, frozen in traumatic shock, automatically re-creates every trauma. She thereby forges endless hardships for herself and others.
The Mundaneness and Meanness of the Mineral (Although every Mineral has both of these traits, he often is not aware that he does!): Rocky is an example of someone stuck in the Mineral stage. He gets up at the same time every morning. On weekdays, he drives the same route to work to the same job he’s had for thirty years. After work, he stops at the same bar to have a few beers before going home. If anything hasn’t gone “his” way at work or if his wife doesn’t have a delicious meal prepared by “dinner time,” she is his whipping boy. (He may lash out at her physically, emotionally, or mentally.) If he is in good spirits after “roughing her up a bit,” he might stop there. But when she’s “particularly annoying,” he might slip poison into her nightcap. He complains the next morning about her keeping him awake with her “moaning” and trips to the bathroom. “A woman like that is hell to live with!” Rocky thinks to himself—the same words that his child and spouse-abusing dad used to say about Rocky’s mother. Viewing television is Rocky’s great escape. Boxing matches and horror films are his favorites. While these may seem like choices, he is compelled to watch scenes that resemble the brutality of his upbringing.
Minerals always give value to what is inanimate, whether objects, schedules, money, or their own traumatically-induced programming, while scorning, exploiting, or otherwise harming human life. They can be found running corporations where each worker is underpaid, overworked, and treated more like factory equipment than a human being. Minerals may be ministers who relentlessly use their congregations for their own gains. In whatever aspect of society they are found, Mineral-stagers consistently create personally profitable programs, in which they misuse and abuse their fellowman. They give these programs attractive names, however, such as “healthcare.”
Minerals can express their violent natures internally as well as externally and unconsciously as well as consciously. For example, a person may succumb to an excruciatingly painful and grossly debilitating disease, when a Mineral part of them is surfacing in their consciousness. When people regard their illnesses as “happenings” in which they have no choice, they show a Mineral mentality that requires urgent attention.
Those stuck in the Mineral Stage are extremely defensive when anyone approaches their devastated psychology, which is akin to that of an unborn child. Their response to offers of help is a verbal or behavioral, “No!” which keeps them stuck in the Mineral Stage. Only when they realize they have choice and budge from their fixed, environmentally-programmed stance, do they progress to the next stage of psychological development.